Tuesday, October 4, 2011

3 Years Gone By

remains

My children continue to find their passions and understand the true values of life and love.

Four Rachel Ashwell Shabby Chic Couture Stores (N.Y., LONDON, L.A., TEXAS) stand proud after some big bumps in my shabby world.

Two books have been published, The Prairie by Rachel Ashwell (a precious B and B and base for creative projects), has opened.

Simply Shabby Chic at Target continues to be a partnership that I am so proud to be part of.

And other projects have been launched in the world of Shabby Chic. Quilting Fabrics and products in Michaels under Treasures by Shabby Chic, a line of furniture under the Shabby Chic Brand is sold across the country at furniture stores (different to Rachel Ashwell Shabby Chic Couture™ stores) and back in my home country at House of Fraser Stores there is a complete world of Shabby Chic products.

"Are you getting enough rest and taking care of your self," is what mum would be saying. However, October 13th is 3 years since she passed away.

spirit

Through out all my busy busy days of the past 3 years, not one day has gone by that I don't think about mum. Some days with a giggles, some days with a tear, some days with such gratitude of the depth of substance of who she was, and some days just wishing I could be greedy and that she could have been here for these past three years.

MothersPoem

The wonderful thing about having my mum is that her inspirations live on through many facets of my life.

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The core of how I live my life. Accepting imperfection takes away intimidation. The ice is already broken. With the influence of technology today it seems speed, the pretense of perfection and deletion of what was, makes for the absence of an authentic life, in some instances negating history and reality. Mum wouldn't have done well with that notion of deletion and retouching.

journey

On a practical level, her little tiny booth in Camden Passage in London was my entry into the world of retail.

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Sometimes she would want to go to the loo and ask me to "hold the fort". I never made a sale for her, but I could hold a good conversation even as a pre-teen and keep her customers engaged till she would return. To this day, I'm not much of a sales girl.

protecting

To this day I can only sew by hand, but the hum of a sewing machine is a nostalgic comforting noise to me, as I would often hear this as i was going off to sleep as a child.

messy

The art of creating has flowed from mum to me and through both of my children, through art, music, gardening and seeking of the soul.

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In comparison to mum, I have had a very public life. One she wouldn't have wanted for herself. Sometimes I question if her daily practice of her art, with no agenda other than that of practice, and her choice to be anonymous is what allowed her to be really quite brilliant.

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Mums piano playing was always a big part of "nana visits"

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In their younger years I continued the tradition of playing the piano as my children would go to sleep, knowing the loveliness they would feel as I did when my mum played for me.

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Mostly, what my mum passed on to me, was how to love a child. Often expressed in her art. Perhaps from a void in her own childhood. The relationship of the love of mother and child was of the greatest value of all to her.

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motherand child

This is "forever to keep " for me. Both in the material sense and spiritual.

So for all mums inspirations that has given me such a rich life, and that is now passing on to my children, it is her gift of how to love a child, that is the greatest gift of all. I do miss her often but her leaving was in the normal flow of life, and
she more than anyone would accept that path.....she was a true gift to me.

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P.S. As only Mum would do. My "valuable bits" long gone now, except for the precious thought and envelope.

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39 comments:

  1. This is such a touching and inspirational post, Rachel. It is so comforting to remind ourselves of the legacies passed to us by our families and the way those who have left us can still reach out and touch us across the void through the memories we have of them.

    Jem xXx

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  2. How sweet and touching this post is about your Mum. I can feel your love for her through your writing.

    My Mom's name is Shirley, too. She was my fist inspiration, her style was amazing. She decorated and dressed with such flare. I love her dearly.

    I hope tomorrow your sweet memories keep her spirit alive in your heart.

    Take care, Rhonda

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  3. I loved reading your post about your mom. What a lovely person she was inside and out!

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  4. Oh, how you miss your mum; a lovely tribute, and didn't she have great style. You inherited the gene.

    Speaking of brilliance, could you have said this any better: "Accepting imperfection takes away intimidation. The ice is already broken. With the influence of technology today it seems speed, the pretense of perfection and deletion of what was, makes for the absence of an authentic life, in some instances negating history and reality."

    I get a lot out of your posts. Little gems, your thoughts. Thank you for sharing more lovely photos.

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  5. What a beautiful post Rachel. I have been a follower of your work for many years now, loving your TV show (was that about 10 years ago?) I wish it was still on. Your were my little escape from motherhood. I remember how you used to write little notes for Jake and Lily's lunchboxes (i copied that idea when mine were smaller). I can see how your mum lives on in your life and work, it so lovely. best wishes, Jane x

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  6. Such a moving and lovely tribute to your mum Rachel, and such a precious gift she gave to you growing up "how to love a child", you are very lucky to have had such a special mum, that gave you so much love, because that is all that really matters between mums and their children.

    xo

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  7. What a wonderful and touching post about your mum... And it's touching to see that your children seem to have inherited th creativity...

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  8. Hello! I'm going to keep that text about Mothers, it is wonderful! Also I wanted to say that Lily looks so much like your mum (the picture of her sewing), same pose, same features, it is really touching!

    Isabelle

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  9. Your mother sounds like an amazing person. You are lucky to have had her.♥

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  10. A truly heartfelt post. I loved reading about your mum and the impact she has had on your creativity, it gives a real insight into you. My parents, particularly my mum, have influenced me dramatically, my mum was (and still is at the age of 82) incredibly creative and still paints every week.
    I bet she would be so proud of you.

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  11. I really love your blog and all your yummy products. I just wish I could make it to one of your stores or The Prairie. Reading about your Mum brings back so many memories of my Father who I lost 11years ago October 12. I wish everyone could have at least one parent who is giving, loving and passionate about life and their children. I was my Dad's princess and miss sitting on his lap and hearing him say "it will be okay" during hard times or learning valuable lessons.

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  12. I have always been a fan of your style, your work and your beautiful way of living. But, this story and your musings within it, just make me an even bigger fan. I hope, someday, that my children feel this way about me...your mom was a very special person indeed. And I couldn't agree more...the gift of knowing how to love a child is an amazing gift to receive. The most important thing for sure...
    xo
    Melis

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  13. Thank you Rachel for sharing that with us. I especially love the poem! It is just lovely..... I would like to give it to my own mother for Christmas.
    Thank You
    ~Leslie

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  14. a powerfully lovely tribute, rachel.

    i think what stirred me most is your mum's 'unfinished tapesty.' so many spiritual paralells in there to honor and that i can relate to. i have always loved the thought that God is creating a tapestry, and we can only see the side that's not so pretty. but i think this idea of 'unfinished' is compelling. a layer i had not considered and will be thinking about for awhile.

    thinking of you as you celebrate your mum's life.

    michele

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  15. so lovely, you were a lucky pair x

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  16. this post really makes me want to cry. Of joy of being a mother to a daughter myself, but also for how strongly you feel the loss of your mum.

    a very beautiful tribute to her. You look like her too.
    x

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  17. Rachel - Thanks for sharing your heart...the deepest part of your heart...and touching us all. We all need to appreciate every moment we have with our loved ones so that we can have an abundance of memories to live with us forever! XO!
    Kelley

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  18. So beautifully written, your mum would be so very proud... I lost my mum 9 years ago, I still miss her every day but her heart still shines in me and my children...Take care cx

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  19. Rachel this is such a poignant, heartfelt post.... thank-you for sharing it so beautifully. My mum is 82 years old and we still sit and have cups of tea and talk about old times and all the things she would get up to as a little girl and how hard she worked on the farm. I am so lucky to be able to still treasure these precious times with her, the woman I admire and love so much. You must miss your mum so much but she is right by your side and I am sure so very proud of what you have achieved in the last 3 years! Congratulations on your success Rachel .... you so deserve it. I have just bought some of the paintings by Laurence Amelie that were on the cover of your new book and I can't thank you enough for being such an inspiration!
    with best wishes always
    Frances
    M.A. the 2nd
    ps I was the Aussie girl on the phone from Australia trying to buy the paintings during your book signing at the Santa Monica store!

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  20. This was such a wonderful heartfelt tribute to your wonderful mother.....You were incredibly blessed.

    xo

    Jo

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  21. What a beautiful tribute to your mum. You touched my heart.

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  22. So beautiful Rachel.
    Memories are a wonderful gift aren't they?

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  23. Rachel, My husband and I discovered you years ago on tv and immediately fell in love with your designing concepts. We've missed you! My own mother passed away in 2008 too (Aug 18, 2008). I love the MothersPoem on your blog and would love to have a copy of it (is that possible?).
    God Bless YOu.
    Betty O.

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  24. I know exactly how it feels on days like these...sad anniversaries always make one feel especially vulnerable and nostalgic. But please remember that your mom is not completely gone because as long as you hold her dear in your heart and in your memories she lives on safely inside you. All of us fans are with you and love you Rachel. Thank you for being you!

    Love ya'
    Ray

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  25. Beautiful and moving post, Rachel. As a previous poster said, I saw the idea of putting notes in Lily's lunchbox years ago on one of your shows and I adopted that for my daughter. I loved the photo of your mother in her little spiritual garden as to me it represented how we can make every space, no matter how humble and small elevating and inspiring. We are facing losing our father at the moment and so can really relate to a lot of your thoughts here. Luminous. xx

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  26. Oh Rachel I know how you feel, it's been 12 years since my mum passed away and I still miss her and think of her every day. A good mother is such a gift, I try to be a mother to my own children that she would be proud of xxBrenda

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  27. What a lovely tribute you wrote for your Mum. It's easy to see that she is still such a part of your life in everything you do. She must have been so very proud of you and pleased to know how much of an inspiration she was to you as well. Thanks so much for sharing her with us. There is so much love that can be felt in this post. xo ~Lili

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  28. Rachel with the recent loss of my mother 7 Months have passed and I feel her spirit everyday, I do feel that the influence of a loving mother child relationship goes on eternally. I am an antique dealer, I handpaint furniture, sew etc. but I find myself searching for my mothers blues or my grammas purple and greens and really really selling much more than before........I love how you clarified that you still have a relationship with target and that your california store is still going strong as when I went to order your new book there was a very nasty uninformed review that I knew was not correct in content so I of course completely disregarded the review and am awaiting your new book as I write this! This post touched me deeply your mum was a very beautiful artist and I am so glad that she gave us the gift of all your inspiration and I can see that your daughter will carry this artistic loving spirit on as well.
    Sherry

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  29. You have passed on a feather of hope for my soul today. If my girls one day say of me that I taught them how to love a child, I will feel that I have served a purpose on this earth. thank you.

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  30. Beautiful words and tribute to your Mum...I lost my mother 6 years ago and life has never been the same, but I carry on and keep her memory alive thinking about her daily and what she would say when I need her. Its difficult, but it is the circle of life...;-)

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  31. Rachel,

    Thank you for this post. I needed to read it.
    My lovely and beloved Mum died two years ago on October 4th. I have not cried, not really. This year, just like last year, I can't quite get my brain to understand that she's really gone. It sinks in slowly, and in the meantime I still expect the phone to ring, or to see her in the kitchen when I visit my dad.
    The house still smells like her, and sometimes I can still hear her lovely voice.
    Mum was a dancer, a singer, and a performer, all her life. Even though she met my dad at 21, and had me at 22, she remained a shining light on the stage of her life.
    She was funny and kind and talented, quick to smile and always ready for a hug. My mum made friends wherever we were, and we moved a great deal when I was growing up. The thing I miss most is being able to talk to her about the little things, the every day things. I know that she loved your line of linens and things at Target, and it is very close to the look of things when she, and I, were children. Thank you for the lovely reminders of an easier, quieter time.
    Blessings,
    Kari

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  32. The most touching thing I ever read.
    I would have loved to have a mother like yours. She seemed to be an amazing person. Mine used to be (and still is) very public (even more than you), a star in France in her own field. That's fine but it changes the perspective of things. However I had a wonderful Nanny who taught be sewing and crocheting and I am grateful for that. My Nanny was my Shirley somehow... She was my true Mummy in my heart.

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  33. Dear Rachel,

    This post touched me in more ways than you can imagine. Such a loving tribute to your sweet mother. I, too, have a precious mother who recently had cataract surgery and I stayed with her and really relished our time together as I realize how quickly time is flying by...........

    Thanks for this wonderful post.

    And btw, I'm so glad you've stretched your wings to include TX and hope to one day visit your new Prairie Digs!!!

    Big TX Hugs,
    Stephanie
    Angelic Accents

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  34. What a touching and loveable memorial tribute to a wonderful MOM...Mine too is in heaven...I am who I am today because of who she was when she had me....teeny tiny 17 yrs old....may their sweet ways continue to touch people through us...you are somewhat more famous and rich than I...thanks for sharing a part of your heart with me (us)

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  35. I love her luscious attention to detail, the sumptuous palette with the occasional quirk.car movers in chandigarh

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  36. I am so touched by your sweet sentiments about your mum....and so inspired by your spirit, Rachel. Thank you for the new book, it is beautiful, delightful and inspiring!
    Best,
    Ann

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  37. thank you for sharing rachel! Such a lovely homage to your mum. i lost my mom this past year and like you, she was my closest friend and true gift. nothing like our moms. xoxo

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